Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

outgoing

opinionated

nurturing

indecisive

perfectionist

self-centered

power-oriented

dominant

sympathetic

tolerant

enthusiastic

unsure

naive

suspicious

self-serving

loyal

playful

decisive

contented

worry-prone

silently stubborn

arrogant

flighty

sociable

assertive

reliable

kind

reluctant

bossy

self-critical

a teaser

easygoing

analytical

action-oriented

carefree

overly sensitive

critical of others

shy

obnoxious

a good listener

determined

a party person

detail conscious

vain

unforgiving

unmotivated

demanding

responsible

considerate

idealistic

happy

impatient

moody

passive

impulsive

strong-willed

fun-loving

patient

respectful

unrealistic

argumentative

directionless

an interrupter

dependable

even-tempered

independent

trusting

frequently depressed

aggressive

ambivalent

forgetful

powerful

optimistic

gentle

deliberate

judgmental

undisciplined

insensitive

boring

agreeable

logical

popular

emotional

guilt prone

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

always right

accepting

spontaneous

pragmatic

well-behaved

thoughtful

merciless

a show-off

uninvolved

sincere

diplomatic

task-oriented

lively

loud

lazy

hard to please

tactless

adaptable

creative

direct

a performer

calculating

self-deprecating

disorganized

self-righteous

confident

pleasant

disciplined

charismatic

afraid to face facts

careful

intimidating

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

As a child, I was:

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

As an adult, I am:

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

In social situations, I am most often:

Envied by others.

Feared by others.

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.

Security, creativity, and purpose.