Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

nurturing

opinionated

outgoing

perfectionist

self-centered

power-oriented

indecisive

tolerant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

dominant

naive

suspicious

unsure

self-serving

decisive

loyal

playful

contented

worry-prone

silently stubborn

flighty

arrogant

kind

reliable

assertive

sociable

self-critical

a teaser

bossy

reluctant

easygoing

analytical

action-oriented

carefree

obnoxious

shy

overly sensitive

critical of others

detail conscious

determined

a party person

a good listener

demanding

vain

unmotivated

unforgiving

considerate

responsible

idealistic

happy

passive

impulsive

impatient

moody

fun-loving

strong-willed

patient

respectful

directionless

an interrupter

argumentative

unrealistic

even-tempered

independent

dependable

trusting

forgetful

frequently depressed

aggressive

ambivalent

deliberate

gentle

optimistic

powerful

undisciplined

boring

judgmental

insensitive

popular

agreeable

logical

emotional

always right

unenthusiastic

guilt prone

uncommitted

pragmatic

spontaneous

well-behaved

accepting

a show-off

uninvolved

thoughtful

merciless

task-oriented

sincere

diplomatic

lively

lazy

hard to please

loud

tactless

direct

a performer

adaptable

creative

calculating

disorganized

self-righteous

self-deprecating

disciplined

pleasant

charismatic

confident

afraid to face facts

unproductive

intimidating

careful

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.