Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

outgoing

inventive

opinionated

nurturing

power-oriented

self-centered

indecisive

perfectionist

sympathetic

tolerant

dominant

enthusiastic

suspicious

unsure

self-serving

naive

playful

loyal

decisive

contented

worry-prone

arrogant

silently stubborn

flighty

reliable

sociable

kind

assertive

bossy

self-critical

a teaser

reluctant

analytical

carefree

easygoing

action-oriented

overly sensitive

critical of others

obnoxious

shy

a party person

determined

detail conscious

a good listener

vain

demanding

unmotivated

unforgiving

idealistic

happy

considerate

responsible

moody

impulsive

passive

impatient

fun-loving

strong-willed

patient

respectful

unrealistic

directionless

argumentative

an interrupter

trusting

dependable

independent

even-tempered

frequently depressed

ambivalent

forgetful

aggressive

optimistic

deliberate

gentle

powerful

insensitive

undisciplined

judgmental

boring

popular

logical

emotional

agreeable

always right

unenthusiastic

guilt prone

uncommitted

accepting

pragmatic

spontaneous

well-behaved

a show-off

thoughtful

merciless

uninvolved

diplomatic

sincere

lively

task-oriented

tactless

lazy

hard to please

loud

adaptable

creative

a performer

direct

calculating

self-deprecating

disorganized

self-righteous

confident

pleasant

charismatic

disciplined

unproductive

careful

afraid to face facts

intimidating

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Approved of and right.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.