Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

nurturing

opinionated

outgoing

inventive

perfectionist

indecisive

power-oriented

self-centered

tolerant

enthusiastic

dominant

sympathetic

naive

suspicious

unsure

self-serving

decisive

playful

loyal

contented

arrogant

silently stubborn

flighty

worry-prone

sociable

kind

assertive

reliable

bossy

self-critical

a teaser

reluctant

carefree

analytical

easygoing

action-oriented

critical of others

obnoxious

overly sensitive

shy

a good listener

determined

a party person

detail conscious

vain

unforgiving

unmotivated

demanding

idealistic

happy

considerate

responsible

passive

moody

impatient

impulsive

strong-willed

respectful

fun-loving

patient

directionless

unrealistic

argumentative

an interrupter

trusting

even-tempered

dependable

independent

frequently depressed

ambivalent

aggressive

forgetful

optimistic

deliberate

gentle

powerful

boring

insensitive

judgmental

undisciplined

popular

logical

agreeable

emotional

uncommitted

unenthusiastic

always right

guilt prone

well-behaved

spontaneous

pragmatic

accepting

a show-off

merciless

thoughtful

uninvolved

diplomatic

sincere

lively

task-oriented

tactless

hard to please

loud

lazy

adaptable

creative

direct

a performer

self-deprecating

calculating

disorganized

self-righteous

disciplined

charismatic

pleasant

confident

unproductive

intimidating

afraid to face facts

careful

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.