Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

nurturing

outgoing

opinionated

indecisive

power-oriented

perfectionist

self-centered

tolerant

dominant

enthusiastic

sympathetic

suspicious

self-serving

unsure

naive

loyal

decisive

contented

playful

silently stubborn

arrogant

worry-prone

flighty

assertive

sociable

reliable

kind

reluctant

a teaser

bossy

self-critical

carefree

easygoing

action-oriented

analytical

critical of others

overly sensitive

obnoxious

shy

a party person

determined

detail conscious

a good listener

unforgiving

unmotivated

vain

demanding

responsible

idealistic

considerate

happy

passive

moody

impulsive

impatient

fun-loving

patient

respectful

strong-willed

argumentative

directionless

unrealistic

an interrupter

trusting

dependable

independent

even-tempered

forgetful

ambivalent

frequently depressed

aggressive

deliberate

powerful

gentle

optimistic

insensitive

judgmental

undisciplined

boring

logical

agreeable

emotional

popular

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

guilt prone

always right

spontaneous

well-behaved

accepting

pragmatic

thoughtful

merciless

a show-off

uninvolved

sincere

diplomatic

lively

task-oriented

tactless

loud

lazy

hard to please

adaptable

creative

direct

a performer

disorganized

self-righteous

self-deprecating

calculating

pleasant

charismatic

confident

disciplined

intimidating

careful

unproductive

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

In social situations, I am most often:

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

Feared by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.