Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

nurturing

opinionated

outgoing

inventive

indecisive

power-oriented

self-centered

perfectionist

sympathetic

dominant

tolerant

enthusiastic

suspicious

naive

self-serving

unsure

decisive

playful

contented

loyal

worry-prone

silently stubborn

flighty

arrogant

kind

reliable

assertive

sociable

bossy

self-critical

a teaser

reluctant

carefree

easygoing

analytical

action-oriented

shy

critical of others

obnoxious

overly sensitive

determined

a party person

detail conscious

a good listener

unforgiving

unmotivated

vain

demanding

happy

considerate

responsible

idealistic

moody

impatient

passive

impulsive

patient

fun-loving

strong-willed

respectful

argumentative

an interrupter

unrealistic

directionless

even-tempered

dependable

independent

trusting

ambivalent

aggressive

frequently depressed

forgetful

optimistic

deliberate

gentle

powerful

undisciplined

judgmental

insensitive

boring

popular

logical

agreeable

emotional

uncommitted

always right

unenthusiastic

guilt prone

spontaneous

pragmatic

accepting

well-behaved

uninvolved

merciless

thoughtful

a show-off

sincere

diplomatic

lively

task-oriented

lazy

hard to please

tactless

loud

creative

a performer

direct

adaptable

self-deprecating

disorganized

self-righteous

calculating

pleasant

confident

disciplined

charismatic

afraid to face facts

careful

unproductive

intimidating

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Fight back with facts and anger.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

In social situations, I am most often:

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

Feared by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Approved of and right.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.