Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

opinionated

inventive

nurturing

outgoing

indecisive

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

dominant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

tolerant

self-serving

naive

suspicious

unsure

playful

loyal

decisive

contented

worry-prone

arrogant

flighty

silently stubborn

assertive

kind

reliable

sociable

a teaser

bossy

self-critical

reluctant

analytical

action-oriented

carefree

easygoing

critical of others

obnoxious

overly sensitive

shy

a good listener

determined

detail conscious

a party person

unforgiving

vain

demanding

unmotivated

idealistic

considerate

responsible

happy

passive

moody

impatient

impulsive

patient

fun-loving

respectful

strong-willed

argumentative

unrealistic

directionless

an interrupter

even-tempered

independent

trusting

dependable

forgetful

frequently depressed

aggressive

ambivalent

deliberate

powerful

optimistic

gentle

insensitive

undisciplined

boring

judgmental

logical

agreeable

popular

emotional

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

guilt prone

always right

well-behaved

pragmatic

accepting

spontaneous

merciless

a show-off

uninvolved

thoughtful

task-oriented

sincere

diplomatic

lively

lazy

tactless

hard to please

loud

adaptable

a performer

creative

direct

self-righteous

disorganized

self-deprecating

calculating

confident

charismatic

disciplined

pleasant

intimidating

careful

unproductive

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

Work is:

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Approved of and right.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.